I’ll starting with a confession. I wrote in last week’s blog about identifying people that are where you want to be and then seeking them out for guidance. I rode that wave of enthusiasm and momentum for a solid day, wrote two letters, and sent none. I’m telling you this because I’m a work in progress as well. As I was writing the letters, I let fear creep in and started asking myself “what will their responses be to my letters” “will they think I’m just another guy saying I want something but not ready to put the work in?” Then with that, the momentum slowed, and I went back to the day to day, started just checking the boxes again, and becoming one of my fears, just another guy going through the motions of the day. Getting work done, but just the regular work, not the extra work that moves the needle.
Well FUCK THAT! It’s Sunday morning as I write this and the promise to myself is that all my letters will go out before I send this letter out to you all on Monday morning. I’m slowly training myself to identify fear, and then chase after it. As I said last week, who are we not to be next in line. What do I care what their responses are? If I don’t ask for their help, the answer is already and will remain “no.”
I have a bracelet that I have worn for the past two years that says “Fuck Yeah” It’s my small daily reminder to make everything in my life a “Fuck Yeah” and if it’s not, then it’s a “Fuck No” This approach to life might be a major part of why I drive my wife crazy, but I hate just going through the motions. Anything worth doing is worth doing well.
Ask yourself what are you just “checking the box” at in life?
Do you go to church every week, put on nice clothes, make sure you’re seen, and then not go and live your life according to the message?
Do you take your spouse and your relationship for granted? Are you more like convenient roommates? Ask yourself if you act the same as you did when you were dating. Letting the little stuff go and going out of your way to help, support, and possibly impress the other person.
Do you go to your job and just do the bare minimum to get by? Pass the time? Collect a paycheck?
Until you stop just “checking the boxes” life will remain the same. If you’re good with that, its OK, just know you and I won’t be good friends. The world has enough mediocre people just trying to bye and complaining along the way. One of my biggest fears is to stand before God holding some of the unused gifts that he gave me.
George Carlin once said, “If your kid is looking for a role model and you’re not it, you’re both fucked.” Stop waiting for permission to be the person you want to be. Stop waiting for someone to come along, take your hand, and tell you what to do. They aren’t coming. Use your gifts, take chances, and be a role model for your kids, your spouse, your neighbor, YOURSELF!
Eric Karls M.Ed.
Chief Awesomeness Facilitator
Certified Level 3 CrossFit Coach